Releasing from the burdens of the past is feels like a fresh juice made with lime, mint and watermelon. As a creative there is barely a moment when I not thinking about something to improve, expand, change, so much so that I must let go of many of these ideas or there is a chance I can become hard on myself for not bringing them all to fruition. This judge is very distracting and it only inflames more as it takes me away from working on my goals in the first place...not to forget to mention, I also just feel bad when I listen to my judge too much. This is an example of self mutilation. I try my best to let go of any time expectations, as one thing might take 5 minutes and another project may take 5 years or a life time. It feels better to simply allow things to unfold naturally. Setting an intention for what you would like to achieve or manifest is planting the seed. The thoughts from then on should be as nourishing as possible. Cutting down the inner meanness also seems to help the happiness department a bucket load. This goes for the same as believing in yourself and knowing that if you remain curious and open to new ways of doing things, your ideas can explore territory a practiced imagination might dream. Prevent self mutilation with Awareness & MindfulnessAwareness is a simple word describing a practice when I habitually check in with where I am in the present moment and I ask how I am feeling and if I would like to feel any better? Do I need to experience the lower feelings more? Am I content where I am, in an easy state of peace? Would I like to have more fun and mix it up with some more games? I do my best to answer these question in a state that is as relaxed, compassionate and as loving as possible. The intuitive urges that come don't always line up with what I 'believe' I 'should' do. Sometimes when I feel like I want to act in a way that doesn't measure up to who I think I should be, I move into a state of discomfort. The only way to move out of this state of discomfort for me is to accept that I desire this for some reason and it won't go until I accept it, love it, embrace it. When I answer these questions without expectation of the answer or even knowing the answer at all, I find it easier to find a state of peace along with excitement, curiosity and joy. Mindfulness can then be intended and practiced. Being mindful is living the choices you make. Being mindful is backing up the epiphany you had with action. When things 'go wrong' despite being mindful, it is the opportunity to become aware of something new that has arisen within us. Awareness in the beginning feels like things are going wrong.When things go wrong, we 'feel' bad. That's how we know that something is in alignment or not in alignment with our true nature. Mindfulness is not affective without awareness. If you are not aware of something, how can you make choices to live and mould your experiences to your better liking? You do so S L O W L Y. Evolution takes a long time. Revolution is conscious evolution. Revolution is innovation. We all have the ability to create our own inner and outer revolution. The practice of enacting life mindfully begins when we realize that 'something is going wrong'. In each lifetime, we each have different traits, ideas and preferences as how to live a wonderful life. The thing is, is that we must each discover what these traits, ideas and preferences are first...become aware, before we can mindfully make changes. Become aware of what you do not like, so now you know more of what you do like. Of course this process of becoming aware of something that you don't like can absolutely suck. to me it kind of feels like you're playing a game for a while and you slowly begin to realize you didn't know the rules and have been playing it wrong this entire time and now you must play a game of catch up. It can feel frustrating to go from a feeling of mastery to suddenly feeling like a total beginner. But you're not a total beginner, it's just the natural process of expansion. The trick is reminding your self of the expansion process. Breathe, Reflect, Let Go, Step Forward.The process of Breathing, Reflecting, Letting go and Moving Action Forwards is the process, I use to get through my own, habits of self mutilation as I continue to discover myself in this lifetime. I just like it when I am feeling good and when I am open to giving this energy that I am feeling of love, joy and my creative spark to others and the world around me. The quickest way I have found to this desired effect is the process below.
We covered a lot today and I want to remind you that you shouldn't worry about remembering all of the insights you resonated with. Just by reading, you have already planted the seeds that need to be planted in your heart and mind, to grow you more delicious and self medicinal fruit. Nourish your mind, body and allow soul. The above practices and more, is how I release myself from suffering and to deepening my experience within myself.
I like feeling good and I like to share these pathways to feeling good with others. I do hope this has served you in some way. In kindness, Brittney.
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Acclimatize your body and get ready for a good Liver Spring Clean! As we have now entered into the second half of August, winter is coming to a close and spring is finally on our doorstep! A time when the wild flowers flourish, the birds find their voice and in Traditional Chinese Medicine, the element of wood is in full swing. In TCM, the wood element represents growth, nourishment and new beginnings in nature, in body and in mind. Spring is a time of cleaning and cleansing, in particular a time for the liver to be detoxified and rejuvenated. What a great mantra to embody in this lovely time of spring! What is seasonal living? Seasonal living is all about following the flow of nature, eating fresh produce as it is available naturally and keeping your body on par with the weather; getting outside in the elements and eating fresh and local produce that grows in your area. Our ancestors had no choice but to follow the weather and to consume the produce that grew wildly around them, allowing them to have a strong connection with the flow of nature and themselves, but with concrete cities, pesticides, herbicides and with internal cooling and heating, wild vegetation and living amongst the elements is very near a thing of the past. But why is seasonal living important? Although we do not need to be strong enough to live out in the elements in modern day life, when our bodies are in flow with nature, we can more easily fight off colds and illness, we have more energy and we strengthen our connection to nature and amongst ourselves as a community. Modern-day seasonal living requires 2 things:
wood element represents growth, nourishment and new beginnings in nature, in body and in mind. Liver Spring Clean! - Traditional Chinese MedicineIt only seems logical that after a long winter of living mostly indoors and keeping entertained with coffee, scrumptious food and a cheeky drink (often :P ) our livers are in dire need of some self-care! Traditional Chinese Medicines has a vast knowledge of nature and the body and I hold this ancient knowledge in high regards if one is looking to find more balance in their life. As I mentioned, in TCM the element of wood is the most dominant in spring; a time for nourishment, growth and new beginning’s. The organ associated with spring is the liver and this organ is valued as one of the most important organs in the body, as it is the liver that is responsible for cleaning and regulating Qi or the vital life-force throughout the body. The Liver The liver, in other words, eliminates toxins and cleans our blood for an efficient circulatory system, without which, we would not consume enough quality oxygen and nutrients would not be transported around the body efficiently, leaving you feeling: fatigued, sluggish, depressed, angry, irritable, possibly nauseas and feeling stiff in the muscels and joints. Liver and Mind Connection The liver in TCM is also very much so connected to the mind “a peaceful mind has a healthy liver behind it”. If we were to follow this logically, it is only logical that a peaceful mind may also have benefits for a healthy liver. So if your liver is in need of a detox or little bit of love and rest, it may be beneficial to practice activities that calm and quieten the mind such as meditation, tai chi, qigong or yoga. Reasons why you should eat and live seasonally:It’s good for your body
Its good for the planet
It’s good for your wallet
Seasonal Fruit and Veg that are great for the liver!
For a great list of fruits and veg that are in season in Perth check out this awesome link: Seasonal Food Guide, Perth Happy Spring Everyone!Goals, goals, goals. There is such a buzz going around 'on-the-line' for self-improvement goals. #Instachallenges, pintrest challenges, Facebook group challenges, fitness app challenges, clean eating challenges, yoga challenges, meditation challenges, write a novel in a month challenges, start your own business challenges, blog every day and the list could go on forever, with literally any challenge you can think of that would improve your life in the way you want it to be improved. All of these goals and challenges are so well intended; a creation in your mind built on inspiration and super charged motivation. You've seen the light and you're going to change your life, you have realised how much power you have now! But what happens when your super charged motivation begins to dim? A few days in, a few weeks or even a few months in and your charge starts to fade. The electiricity in your veins flickers and your brilliant idea doesn't seem as bright as the lightbulb once was? Maybe it's all in the way that we set ourselves up for our goals? Staying Motivated isn't always easyStaying motivated can be really difficult and feel almost out of your control, for some reason you just lose interest and that fire you built earlier begins to fade. It seems that the only time I have remained motivated throughout an entire challenge was when you had this super human PASSION, which is a luxury to say the least. Life distracts you from your goals. Get your priorities right!There is so much going on for us in daily life! I'm sure if we had all of the security and all of the resources in the world that we needed to live comfortably, then pursuing our goals would be the first thing on our minds. But there is just so much to think about and we have almost no time to do it all in. Suddenly your life changing goals and ambitions are put on the back burner because you have more important things to do. You don't have a spare moment in your mind to continue creating and building on your ideas and most importantly you have no time at all to keep pumping yourself up! Your ideas are incredible but you don't spend enough time reminding yourself to that fact. Get your priorities in order, what is truly important to you and why isn't it at the TOP of your to-do list?! #createthelifeyouloveStay Clear, Stay Focused and Remember Your WhyHow do you stay clear? What is your why and how do you stay focused? Staying Clear: What do you want in life? What do you want to create? What do you want to see? What do you want to experience? Sit down with yourself somewhere calm and ask yourself these questions. Find out what you want and make this vision crystal clear in your mind. When you create a goal, challenge, if you are offered a job, meet someone new, if you are offered an opportunity of change or if you have to make a big financial decision, ask yourself if this falls into place within your crystal clear vision of a life that you LOVE. If it doesn't fit, then don't do it. If it does fit, GO FOR IT! What is your WHY? This is probably the most important question you can ever ask yourself. This question has the power to revamp your motivation or stop an idea dead in its tracks. Your why has the power to turn heads and fill people's hearts with understanding, compassion, inspiration and drive. Why is this important to you? Why do you want this? Why do you want to manifest this in your life? Staying Focused: Making everything you want happen. Staying focused takes discipline and mindfulness. Discipline: Your motivation will certainly fade at times, for all sorts of different reasons or excuses, you decide what you want to call it. In the end the reasons and excuses don't matter at all, what you need to do at this point is return to your crystal clear vision and your WHY. Remind yourself why it is so crucial that you keep going despite all obstacles. Mindfulness: You want to start creating a life that you love? Then it's time to come off auto-pilot people. When you're own auto-pilot you will stay on the same flight path and nothing will change. Auto-pilot takes you to all sorts of places you've been a million times over: Facebook, Instgram, the same route to work or school, the same restaurants, the same people, the same music and the same movies. Be mindful as to what you do, because what you do is what you create. Is checking Facebook right now taking you closer to a life that you love? No? Then get off Facebook and remind yourself what task will take you closer to where you want to be. Mindfully choose what you should be doing to what aligns with your goals. Remember your Why: Motivator of the CenturyLosing motivation is all apart of the journey we call life. I don't know the meaning of life, but I do not that since I have been here, I have been learning and growing every single day and I have learnt that problems only stay problems until we decide to find and act out the solution. Regaining your motivation to continue to grow and develop into the brilliant person you are meant to be is not seperate from this. You will fall down and you will fade in and out but you can choose to get back up and try again and again and again; each attempt bringing more meaning purpose into your life. Don't strike out just yet despite the fact that you are tired or just over it. Remember your why and let it light your way when all you see is darkness. Your why is the most powerful attribute that you have and it is what makes you unique, let that shine through all of the scars and battle wounds from each fall and you might just see why the fall is so important. Dare to Ignite beautiful souls. It's a close call but I still have time left in the day to complete my gratitude challenge at only day 3! If you follow the Facebook page or Instagram account, you may have seen my latest video from this morning. I was feeling horribly out-of-sorts with so much to get down in a short amount of time; so many late nights, too much pub grub and too much beer for the last few weeks. I proposed that maintaining a clean space is a means to maintain a clean headspace...the point of the matter is that I was feeling extremely unwell and this continued into my day.
My head this morning was definately spacey and slow to the point where any task, like brushing my teeth for example, became an overwhelmingy huge task that I had no idea where to begin. I reluctantly pushed through my morning exercise routine, my body aching and trembling and I continued to fumble around and ache thoughout my day. Work was arduous and there was lots of bending forward to do dishes or to lift boxes or to run food to a table very quickly across this massive pub I just came home from work just now at this late hour after not having stopped all day and the first thing I did was sit down on my yoga mat. My poor body, completely exhausted, tight and still trembling. It got me thinking, my body never ever gives up on me. If I tell my body to keep standing whilst my back muscels throb and burn, it will continue to stand. My feet never get a rest and will keep holding the entire weight of my body up. Right this moment I am not letting myself go to sleep because I need to finish this blog and my body is trying its darned hardest help me get through this last part of my day. I am so grateful for my body that I am struggling to put into words. It is a an incredible machine that even the most savvy engineer in the world could not design a robot replicate. Every cell of every organ all working in harmony, healing and growing, healing and growing. It so interesting to me in this moment how our bodies, when under dire circumstances, will find strength it did not have before in order to survive, yet our minds will so easily give up on the body; self-doubt polluting the art of being. Laying on my yoga mat was the most incredible feeling I had felt in the last few weeks. I could feel my body thanking me for taking the time to understand its hardships and aches and pains. I focused my attention on becoming curious about where and why I was sore, brushing off any monkey-ish thoughts that popped up into my mind. I explored the aches and gently eased the tension and my body responded in such gentle way that I was flooded with the feelings of love, support, understanding and above all, a graitude that I don't ever want to forget. Time to get some sleep now. Thankyou body, for being so remarkable, loving, strong and diligent in our journey of healing and happiness. Dare to Ignite I woke up at 5am this morning for work and at first I felt a little reluctant when forcing myself out of bed. It's been a while since I've had to get up before 7am so it was naturally a shock to the system.
It was dark when I made it outside but it wasn't cold which I very much enjoyed as it encouraged me to add a spring to my step. After cooking the first lot of breakfasts for the hotel, I made myself some avocado on toast and ventured outside into the warm morning air. I can't get enough of being outside, in the elements just feels like home more and more everyday. No matter what the temperature, I always have a window open a crack, gratifying my need to feel connected to the balance and harmony of nature. When I take that first step outside, the fresh morning air filling and cleansing my lungs and near simultaneously I gasp at the angelic scenery that was softly Wild Flower SeasonToday my gratitude lies with the glorious wild flower season of northern Western Australia.
I grew up in the city of Perth and the most exposure I had around the aussie outback was wheatbelt country. It's that big patch of land in the lower middle region of Western Australia. It's all in the name, wheat-belt country; gigantic wheat, lupin, barley, sheep and cattle farms. The flora is harsh, spikey and arid, there are 3-horned prickles called double-g's everywhere, there ain't much water around, salt lakes for days and the landscape seems never ending. As a child, I thought this was what the entirety of what the Australian outback looked like. Big, dry and dead. Don't get me wrong, I loved this version of the aussie landscape but since I have taken my feet wandering up north to Dampier, I now understand the terrain to be a lot more diverse and to my happy suprise, very colourful. Wildflowers are scattered all over the land, prefering to stay close to the ground with a shorter stem or they are tall with paper-like petals to accomadate the dry and hot climate. It's not like a fierce contrasting meadow full of daisies, the australian flower scene is beautiful in its subtleness, in that if you're not looking, you wouldn't notice them there; it's such a wonderful suprise when huge array of colours comes into your awareness. Wild flowers in the Aussie terrain remind me that you can always find beauty, even in the harshest of times. When I see these unique flowers scattered all around me, it inspires me to continue to look for the good things in life. Day 1.That title was all I had written for a solid 20 minutes because for some reason I cannot describe my feelings or thoughts about this epic challenge. I did some reading on other bloggers, instagramers and other gratitude challengees and it was so overwhelmingly inspiring to watch each individual grow as a person; spiritually and mindfully. I wish I had started this sooner. For me what I am looking to get out of this challenge is to continue to shift my mind-set from the glass half empty, to a glass half full. I have this very deep feeling and knowing that we can heal ourselves from any ailment, any pyschological disorder and disease. It is all just a matter of mind-set. I know in my heart that this world truly is at our finger tips, its just when you are in a state of illusion and selfish confusion - not in awareness of the bigger picture - that we seem to forget how to tap into this abundance. If I lost you, don't worry. We all have different perspectives. What I really want to say is that I think that by having more conscious gratitude and by opening up our mind-sets to see and appreciate the beauty that surrounds us in day to day life, we start on the path to health, happiness and grander things altogether. I'm not too sure of what this will lead to, but I am very excited to find out. New BeginningsToday, I am grateful for new beginnings. I am grateful in that you can choose to start a-fresh whenever you like; we always have access to a new day, a new hour or that new second when you can take a deep breath, dust your shoulders off and pick yourself up again. New beginnings have that wonderful feeling of adventure, when you get that giddy feeling in your stomach and your smile can't contain its excitement in wondering what is to come. A new beginning always lets me see how much potential I have, its a time before any fear or self-doubt kicks in to steal the show. It doesn't matter where you are in your journey or how much of the puzzle you have completed, you can have a new beginning without having to start the puzzle again. You don't hit refresh on the puzzle to start again, you leave the puzzle as it is and you hit your refresh button so that you can go back to the puzzle with a clear, focused and positive mind-set. You can do this whenever you like. 'Ere 'ere to new beginnings and the potential that we truly hold. One of my favourite TV shows is Adventure Time, it is a fabulously spontaneous adventure catoon series. Yes, I am a geek because I am an adult that loves cartoons, however I have many good reasons as to why I absolutely love this show. I remembered that life is a stunning AdventureI originally got into the show when I joined my sister for some chips on the couch and she was watching Adventure Time. At first, it just seemed stupid. There was just so much random stuff going on. I thought it was immateur and not realistic. I walked off with a handful of Salt 'n' Vinegar chips mumbling that my sister was basically an idiot. Sibling rivalry can be a harsh reality sometimes friends. To my own 'detriment' I later found myself downloading the first 4 series online. Despite the harsh mumblings to my sister earlier on, I was excited as I quickly plunged into Season 1 and polished off Season 2. I felt so animated while I watched and here is why:
Every Good Adventure Story has obstacles and hardshipIndianna Jones just wouldn't be the same if he wasn't being chased by a massive rolling boulder or if he didn't have to take that leap of faith. Without all of these obstacles he wouldn't need his hat or whip and let's be honest...it would be a terrible adventure movie. Every good adventure movie is full of daring quests and hardship. It is when the hero is faced with ultimate doom, when they are beaten, squashed and diminished to a pulp that they push themselves to their absolute limit and with every ounce of courage and energy left they suddenly shine brighter than the sun. The moments of glory come from the darkest of hours. Whilst researching a little more into this topic for inspiration I came across a blogger who just put it into words perfectly for me, so I shall quote: I reckon that if you can’t treat what you’re doing like an adventure, it’s not worth doing. You might as well be dead. Why You should treat you life like an adventure
Step 1 - Approach daily problems with a laugh and a 'come at me bro' Step 2 - Embrace the element of fun into EVERYTHING you do Step 3 - Watch ADVENTURE TIME - The characters have been developped so beautifully over the 8 seasons of the show. I truly believe they will be your greatest mentor in living you life like it is an adventure. Until next time, Brittlz You have unlimited choiceOne of things that I absolutely love about being human, is our ability to choose. We are surrounded by choices every day, every hour, every second and every millisecond; from deciding whether you should stay in the job you don't like, but it pays the bills, to whether or not it is an appropriate time to fart. Choices are everywhere. It's amazing, this realization I have come to, that we are literally in abundance of choice. It's amazing to me because for so long, I felt so limited and so far from 'the world is your oyster'. Why can't life just work out so I can get what I want? It's so hard to choose myself when there is so much other stuff going on, right? Wrong. You are choosing to put yourself second and your problems first. Yes, there are problems coming up all of the time, and we each need to face these problems, but you're kidding yourself if don't think that you and your dreams aren't your top priority. Choose you, and you will ignite your life into a life you love. The Illusion that we have no choice: Just a Good ExcuseIt's so easy to get lost in the mind-set that you have no choice. It's too hard, there's so much paperwork, you don't have enough money, there's just not enough jobs around at the moment, you're just so tired, no one else will like it, you have too many commitments. Yes, these are certainly obstacles one must over come, but they're really all just big FAT EXCUSES. Any excuse to not have the personal responsibility to take yourself further, any excuse to remain in your comfort zone, any excuse to not face your fear of success or to take that vital first step that could surely lead to failure. Why are you afraid of failure? Why are you afraid of success? Why are you afraid of discomfort? No one can take away your freedom to make a choice, but you. So why do you care about what other people think? if life is gonna be a bitch anyway, why not embrace this new kick-ass attitude and go with the flow? People pleasers: You can't choose you and please everyoneWhen I was 19 years old I had extremely low self-esteem and I desperately wanted to be liked and accepted by everyone else. I was so afraid of not belonging or not being loved that I would completely reject anything that I wanted so that I could please someone else. I was at the bottom of the list and so were my dreams...slowly being forgotten. 'What movie do you want to see Britt?' 'I don't mind, I'll like whatever you want to see'. 'I'm ordering food, got any suggestions Britt?' 'I'm happy with whatever you want'. 'What music do you want me to put on Britt?' 'Put on that quirky metal band that you like' I passed off what I desired and what I liked as an individual for so long that I became so deprived, that I actually had no idea what I enjoyed at all. I went completely numb and there was nothing individual about me. I felt empty. I was depressed and lost. And the worst part was that no matter how much I succeeded in pleasing everyone else, I felt more lonely than ever. Because what does belonging matter if you have forgotten who you are? Choose you and you won't have to worry about who else is in your life. The right people will be attracted to who you are Signs you are a people PleaserPeople pleasing is full of good intentions but if inner peace, happiness and a life that you love are your goals, it will never work. Because to attempt to please everyone else means that you will never come first. In case you might not be aware, here are some signs that you are a people pleaser:
So you gonna keep making excuses or will you take back your life?The first step is to ask yourself whether or not you are happy to continue living your life half asleep (comfort zone), in a slow zombie state or if you actually want to feel like you are living? Life is supposed to be full of ups and downs and it is supposed to feel like you are constantly on the edge of your seat. It has been like this my entire life, whether I wanted it to or not. So if life is gonna be a bitch anyway, why not embrace this new kick-ass attitude and go with the flow? I know that it can be scary sometimes and I know that there are lots of people and governments and companies telling us that we should be afraid and that everything is really difficult. In many ways we have every right to feel scared and life is really hard...but I tell you what, it has been an incredible journey since the day I decided to trust myself in this roller coaster called life. Life is an Adventure: start treating it that wayIf you choose to see life like a fight to the death, then you're daily commute to work will certainly feel like you're driving to the grave. On the other hand, choose to see life as an adventure and be a real life Indianna Jones, then suddenly nothing will go wrong anymore. Everything difficult that comes at you is more like a quest rather than a problem. Each quest giving you skills and qualities that will take you to the final battle, and you'll be ready for anything. Commit 100% to youWant to start living your dream life? Then choose to start living the life that you love right now. Commit 100% to you, your dreams and desires. choose you
- Try to start caring about what you think. You do matter, you are important, so start thinking and start acting like you do.
- Eat good food, stay clean, have a good laugh when you can, look for fun and joy and book yourself that massage more regularly. You deserve it.
Take that Indianna Jones leap of faith! It's worth it. Above all, choose you
I relentlessly searched for people who could make me feel validated, important and pretty. Some of my closer followers might have guessed that I recently went through a break-up; particularly if they had read my post The Heart-Break Cure; a post that was very therapuetic for me to feel my emotions to then find healthy ways to fill the gap. The break-up was more-or-less mutual after all emotions were pushed aside, and so my recent hardship isn’t so much missing him anymore – although, I still think of him often – it is more that I didn’t realize how emotionally dependant I had become. My biggest lesson and most horrifying shock this last week is realizing how much I had leant on him emotionally…all the time. It was no wonder that the break-up had to happen. Energy drainers are not evil, they are just regular people who have lost themselves. Draining energy from other people comes from the simple fact that you have allowed your own energies to get so low that you need others to help you feel energized. Post-breakup: with a sudden gap in my being, I relentlessly searched for people who could make me feel validated, important and pretty. It is unfortunate that my energy draining ways were revealed to me by someone new in my life admitting that we couldn’t hang out anymore; I pushed at their personal boundaries and I made it all about me and how amazing I was. Any relationship - family, friends, partners and collegues – should be a two way street my friends. You are not evil, you have just lost yourself We are not evil, we have just lost sight of who we are. Why do we need other people to lean on? Because we don't believe in ourselves enough to be able to stand on our own two feet. Just because you might be an energy draining leech at this point of your life, does not make you a horrible person. I don’t think that I am a horrible person, I think what I put myself through was horrible. You are not good enough, you are not pretty enough, you are not smart enough, you are not thin enough, you are not strong enough...Enough with the ENOUGHS! Believe me when I say you ARE good enough, but you are the only person who can say this that needs to believe it. We are all just looking out for what is best for us. We only want to be happy and to feel safe and sometimes we aren't always aware of the best way to go about it. What are the signs you are an energy leechRecognizing and becoming aware of the signs that you are an energy drainer is a harsh slap in the face to say the least. The good side however, is that you can only move forward and once you understand why you feel so low; things can only get better. 1. Attention Seeking Do you vent about the same trauma’s constantly? Not to sound harsh, but do you sometimes get the feeling that you complain a lot?! You probably do then. I did, I felt that I could never get ahead and that life just wanted to suck me dry. I was constantly bringing up all of the bad things that happened in my day. What I have learnt recently is that people will still find me interesting without my sob story, in fact, people find me more interesting! 2. Needing constant reassurance or validation This can range from wanting to be constantly showered in compliments to looking for people to throw themselves at you so that you feel special and important. I didn’t feel special anymore, I didn’t feel like that special girl who had this mysterious man finally open up to someone. It was a harsh reality, that I could no longer allow him to feel safe when sharing with me. I relentlessly fished for this in strangers and collegues, that ability to let people come out of their emotional shells. My agenda was never in it for helping others though, I wasn’t looking to see into their souls, I was looking for importance and power within myself. 3. Creating lots of problems or drama in your life Everything and anything can be a problem if you want it to be so. The choice is completely up to you. Life is a matter of perspective; the doors swing open if you are open for change or they are closed if you are closed off to new opportunites. Look at it this way, life can be one big problem full of little problems trying to make your life a living hell or...life can be one massive opportunity to grow full of lots of little lessons that will help you become the best person you can be. Look for love within yourselfI was without a doubt in my mind, an energy draining leech. Sounds harsh, but sometimes the reality is harsher than we would like it to be. The point of all of these harsh realities is that if we choose to push through the dirty coal, you will given the chance to create a diamond. The choice is yours, keep living a half-life like voldermourt or choose to live a life that is completely empowered by you. If you can relate to any of these signs or you're just not feeling to happy with yourself lately, then the best thing you can do is look for love and validation from within yourself. The entire planet's population could tell you that you are an amazing and beautiful human being, but the only person who needs to believe it, is you. |
AuthorMy name is Brittney and my life pursuit has been that of self-improvement and growth. It took me a long time to realize that I don't really fit into societies model that you need to go to school, find a career, strive to be extremely succesful to then get married and have kids, ever acquiring material objects. There is nothing wrong with this model at all and for those who can embrace this with whole-hearted happiness, keep going with it. Archives
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