Why Can't I be Happy All the time?
Sadness is not bad, it is poetic in a life-long journeyI might not be happy all of the time and it might take a boot up the butt to get me out of bed, but I tell you one thing, I always follow my own advice. The advice I have for myself right now is this: sadness is completely and absolutely necessary in this life-long journey, everything will be ok kiddo Time and time again, sorrow has eaten me alive and negativity has overwhelmed me in more ways than one. Yet here I am. After everything that has happened, I am still standing. In this moment my body feels a little battered and shaken, but my mind now has a degree of understanding for myself, that I can feel safe to actually feel what is happening inside. When I flood myself with the intention of feeling open, my mind guides me through my feelings of sorrow and confusion, it lets my feel the knot in my stomach and the ache in my chest, without fear or judgement. With the mind-set I will share with you below I am able to keep my life moving forward, this mind-set is how I continue to developed a healthy relationship with my mind. The journey is life-long, the ups and downs will never stop coming but they are completely necessary for your growth. Mind-set: How Can This Experience Change ME?Yes, I am not happy or motivated all of the time however, with this mind-set I am about to share with you, I have been transforming and healing myself daily. With this mind-set, life is not so completely gloomy and lost, there is always hope for something better and that is what keeps me striving and moving forward. Every experience is an opportunity for growthEvery experience you have, brings with it the opportunity for you to grow and change. Every obstacle you face, every conversation you have, everything you see and stumble upon is a grand open doorway for you step into and embody new ways of life and to discover who you are. Life is always changing so why shouldn't you? Let go of what has past, and embrace the new. Shed your skin and grow more resilient and stronger with every chance you get. How Can You REcognize When A nEw Doorway Is Open?
Explore what you are feeling in your body and mind
Keys to the doorways:
These are some basics that you can copy down and try to remember whenever you are engulfed by negativity. It is different for everyone and each experience is completely unique and personal to you, so modify how you feel works best for you. Ask yourself: what can this experience teach me and how can I grow? For those of you who are feeling stuckI highly recommend embodying this mind-set if you are someone who feels stuck in a rut or lost. By actively feeling your emotions and playing out your thoughts and then asking how you can grow, you begin a process of movement. This mind-set will really help you to get the ball rolling again if you feel stuck or lost.
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This morning, I gave-up on myself before I got out of bed!This morning, I gave-up on myself before I got out of bed! We all have these moments right? You wake up and you just feel absolutely terrible in every way possible. Tired, lazy, sick, sore, heavy. The day seems so unreachable and your goals seem so far away and fuzzy, that you can't help but think 'I'm not good enough to be able to do all of this!' And then you just roll back over feeling sorry for yourself. That was me exactly this morning. Not to mention, I stupidly signed myself up for this #morningroutinechallenge. How could I possibly gather the energy to get up and look after myself?! I was awake for 2 hours before I decided to lift my head and see that the sun was shinning outside my window. the darkest moments are right before dawnSuddenly! A spontaneous thought appeared in my mind: what's the worst that could happen? I sat straight up, I rolled back my shoulders and stretched out my knuckles, I pushed all my shit that was on my floor out of the way and I started doing burpees! You wouldn't believe how good this actually felt, I couldn't believe that for the very first time since I began this challenge, I actually felt like I was DOING BURPEES! I felt my body lighting up. My body wanted to move so badly and it felt so enthusiastic and joyous to be taking on this day with so much vigour! Thankyou! I just want to show you how far we have come! You FEll Down? Get the Fuck Back up!Yes, I am feeling a little bit aggressive writing this for you this evening, but you have to understand the incredible transformation that happened in that moment. When I felt encroached in failure and darkness I asked myself :what's the worst that could happen? I did not let my negative thoughts bring me down, I did not let my sour feelings of failure stop me from igniting my true potential. The best part? Is that yes I felt epically strong and balanced, but I thought that if I keep strving everyday, I could feel that my potential is so infinitely unlimited! The Moment you give up is the chance you've been waiting for to transform your lifeThe moral of this story my friends, is that every moment in your life, you have an opportunity to decide how you will live your day. When you are at your lowest, that is when you are at your most open and ready for change.
The moment you give up, stop and think a little longer, then say fuck it! Get up and do what you are here on this Earth to do. I guarantee that you will never feel more empowered than the moment that you decide to find the light inside of you and throw some deisel on it. Peace out my friends and er' er' to DARE TO IGNITE Life Changes Like the WindIn life, the only consistencey that we can rely on is that change is inevitable. Life will flip you upside down and turn you inside out. Life will throw new people at you and take some people away. Life will take you to new places or life will make you stay a little longer. Holding life to your personal expectations is unrealistic and you will forever be chasing a happiness that doesn't exist. You never know what is going to happen. Life changes like the wind; it is fleeting and agile and all we can do is go with the flow. It is not probable to think that life will turn out as expectedNo matter how organized, prepared, diligent or 'on-top of things' you are, life is chaotic and you can never know what will happen next. There are trillions of variables affecting the possible outcomes occurring down to the millisecond; from you leaving your house 1 minute later to someone dropping some rubbish next to the bin. Let your imagination run wild, everything that occurs has millions of possible outcomes (Rick and Morty show you plenty of examples) Your expected outcome has 1 : 1 000 000 000 chance of occurring. Living life expecting things to happen the way you want themto, is unrealistic. Throw society's expectations out the windowGo to school, grow up, go to school some more, get a job, become successful, get married, have kids, continue to be succesful, buy a gigantic house and go on lots of getaways... Soctiety expects alot out of you and these expectations have been thrown down our throats since we were children. It's no suprise that we are so dissatisfied when life doesn't go our way. The only way to be recognized and to feel like we belong is to match the status quo. Or so they say... Pre-requisite: Let go of who you should beNot belonging is a scary thought. The fear of not being loved is probably the biggest cause of everything f***ed up in this world. The reason you don't feel like you belong, is because you are not being true to yourself. Stop trying to live up to the status quo and who you should be. Let go of what anyone else expects you to do. Remeber, this is your life and only you can choose how to live it. Take some deep breaths to yourself and when you are by yourself and your mind is calm, ponder this: If the world suddenly developed amnesia, who would you be? There are no expectations on you to acheive anything, all you have to do is live and do things that bring you joy and let you be creative. How would you think, how would you act, where would you go and what would you do? Life is a game of perspectiveI've said this before and I'll say it again. Life is a matter of perspective. You can't control what people think or what they do, you can't control the weather and you can't control that meteorite hurtling towards the Earth...jokes, but you get the point. You can't control the world outside of you, but you can control how you choose to perceive it. All of your power lies within. The wonderful thing about being human is that we have the ability to choose every step of the way. Inner strength is the ability to choose the light even when you are encroached in darkness. A great storm can be seen as darkness and devestation or you can choose to watch nature in all of its powerful glory. The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails. - William Authur Ward Develop confidence in yourself and Adjust your sailsLife changes a lot, there's nothing you can do about that. But you can choose to be the best version of yourself so that when change does happen, you'll have a skip in your step.
The simplest way to be the best version of you is as follows: Nourish you body with food that it deserves.
Heartbreak feels like a part of you has gone missing. Heartbreak feels like there is a void occupying your chest. Heartbreak challenges your worth and you question if you were ever worthy of love. You sob to yourself 'how on earth will I get through this?' You taunt yourself about the ways that you are not good enough. You judge yourself for being so stupid. One feels heartbreak physically in their body, in their heart and deep in their stomach. There is nothing wrong with feeling heartbreak – however painful - it's when you try to think yourself through a heartbreak that you might lose yourself. You will never find inner peace with a victim and a judge on your shoulder. If you feel like crying, let your tears flow truthfully and authentically. If you need to wrap yourself up into a ball on the floor to comfort yourself, then do so with warmth and love STEP 1: RECOGNISE YOUR VICTIM AND YOUR JUDGeThe biggest culprits for a long and difficult heartbreak are your inner judge and your inner victim. Your inner judge and victim are apart of your ego; they are toxic and they will attempt to steal your identity by making you question your self-worth. Did you really deserve to know this person? How did you ever survive without them? Who even are you, without them?
If you listen to these parts of you, then you will never find peace or growth. Learn to recognise and become aware of when you are pitying or judging yourself. STEP 2: STOP LISTENING TO YOUR VICTIM AND YOUR JUDGE The solution is simple; stop listening to them. Do not indulge in these thoughts that question your worth and validity; by listening and believing in these thoughts, you are allowing your inner Judge and inner Victim to live on inside you. Stop taking them seriously and they will eventually dissolve away. If you catch yourself judging yourself or victimizing yourself;
STEP 3: FLOW LIKE WATER AND EMBRACE YOUR GRIEF Grief is very real and should not be suppressed; you are not weak by feeling emotions of deep hurt. If you feel like crying, let your tears flow truthfully and authentically. If you need to wrap yourself up into a ball on the floor to comfort yourself, then do so with warmth and love. If you feel anger and rage then growl and run and find a bag to punch. The important thing to note is to never dwell in your grief. If you dwell in a destructive thought pattern created by your victim or judge ego then you are not releasing anything, you are creating more problems for yourself. Think of it like a flowing stream: the blocking thought patterns like “I am not worthy of love” are sticks and mud. The more sticks and mud that are in your stream, the less your stream will flow and eventually it will become stagnant and sick. By not indulging in your judge and victim thought pattern as mentioned in Step 2, you are allowing the sticks and mud to loosen and flow down your stream, soon the water will become clear. Then you can flow down your stream, forwards and with clarity. STEP 4: RECREATE WHAT YOU MISS ABOUT THEMWhat do you miss about them? Was it their calm and collect presence? Was it their kindness, their love, their boldness, their abruptness, their honesty or their dark sense of humour? Take some time alone and really ask yourself why you were drawn to this person. Remain calm and try not to ramble and list off every possible thing that you miss about them – this will lead you back to your judge and victim egos. What were the 2 major qualities that you truly admired about this person? How can you recreate these qualities in your life? The qualities that you admired so much, offered you a new perspective. It brought you a new and fresh way to look at the world. Instead of leaning on this person to gain this perspective, embody it fully within yourself.
I like to think that everything happens with divine purpose. Everything has meaning and so you can learn and grow from every experience that is presented to you. So why not invite these qualities that you admired so much, into your own portfolio of traits? It can only take you higher. THERE IS NO QUICK FIX Heartbreak is real and it is painful and as sorry as I am to say this, there is no quick fix. Energetically, heartbreak is when your heart energies are forcefully severed. This gives you feeling of a void in your chest, because an energy has literally left you. Feel your heartbreak and learn from your experiences; in time all hurt will pass and you will come out stronger because of it.
Life can be so terribly complicated; with so many rules to follow and so many mandatory things to do in order to live in modern day society. The western world ‘luxuries’ like cars, a home, phones, clothing, make-up and even having a social life, can all just end up being one gigantic burden sitting on your shoulders, yet they are all extremely necessary to survive in our western world. A world with too much to think aboutThe issue that I see is that there is just so much to think about; so many things to look after and to keep paperwork on, so many passwords to remember and all of this pressure to be perfect and successful and tall and thin and muscular and manly. On top of all of this, you need to exercise regularly and eat healthy and go to your GP regularly and Doctor Google says that from your latest symptoms you are terminally ill and have 5 minutes to live! Just writing that sent my blood pressure through the roof. What you just read, describes a little thing that I call, ‘the thinking trap’. If you are good at finding problems in the world, you will always find something to worry about What is the thinking trap?
This can all become a little too much on your poor soul If you’re anything like me, I was someone who had a mind with hundreds of monkeys and they just wouldn’t be quiet! I used to pride myself on knowing every phone number, single-handedly managing every appointment for myself and my entire family, I was in constant motion concerned with the welfare of others and I was a full-time university student with a full-time job. After a year of this at my peak number of monkeys or things to think about, I had a complete meltdown and developed severe anxiety and depression. I sought to become minimalist and a nomadSince my melt-down, I have since been slowly ‘down-grading’ my lifestyle luxuries so that I will have less responsibilities and so that I can focus more on developing myself.
Minimalism helped, but did not quell my anxiety Yes, I felt a big weight lift off my shoulders by letting go of all of my material possessions, yet even after all of these huge changes I have made to my minimalist lifestyle, I still find myself being caught thinking a thousand things at once. It is great to not have to worry about keeping my car clean and paying for registration, but cycling everywhere has it’s own problems: you worry about being taken out by a car, you worry about being late and getting lost and there’s the constant problem of not being smelly all of the time. If you are good at finding problems in the world, you will always find something to worry about. 2 Guidelines for the chronic thinker1. You can’t change the past and you can’t predict the future, so why are you worrying about it? Life is all about living in the present; you cannot live in the past and the future will never technically arrive. The best advice I can a chronic thinker like myself is to take 1 step at a time; everytime you catch yourself thinking of your next to–do item, stop and refocus on the task at hand. 3. Accept reality and don’t sweat the small stuff Life doesn’t always go the way you planned, but what is done, is done. The best thing for you to do is to ask yourself is, what can I do right now to better my situation?. Yes, there is still the future to worry about but better to fall down forward than to not move at all because you are too afraid to. Remain focused on your goals and don’t sweat the small stuff. Everything will be alright, you are magnificent, brilliant and a totally unique person who is a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for. Love, Brittlz I will leave you with this:Meditation has become a scary wordMeditation is a buzz word these days. I find that there are so many people talking about the benefits of meditation and why your should do it, but without telling you HOW to meditate. So if you're anything like I was, you just sit cross-legged, feeling uncomfortable in your back and your hips and all you want to do is scratch your nose and fidget with your hands. In your head you can't stop thinking about trying to STOP thinking and then you do the worst thing possible and start to beat yourself up, because you're the only one who can't do this meditation thing. Listen up:
Basic meditation guide: step-by-step1. Find a quiet place to sit cross-legged/in a chair or lie down
Take 10 deep breaths, inhale as much as you can and exhale as slow as you can with out feeling puffed. 3. Bring your attention to the sensations of your body when you breath in and out.
Of course there are. Thoughts are natural because we all have a mind. Don't get upset if you find yourself getting lost in a train of thought, simply imagine your thought pass by like a cloud and go straight back to feeling the sensations in your body.
Keep breathing deeply and feel your enitre body working together; a single pulse keeping all of your different parts working as one. If you have any thoughts, don't get upset, just let your thoughts pass by and go back to feeling your body. 7. Breath like this until you feel calm and peaceful...and then maybe some more. There are many different forms of meditationThis technique is very basic but it is my go to because it is so simple, especially when I am feeling stressed or anxious. There are many different styles and teachings of meditation that you might find better suited to you. Check out this link for a list: http://liveanddare.com/types-of-meditation/ I am not a master in these different styles and techniques so I would recommend utilizing youtube guided meditations if you find some in this list that you like. This meditation technique is also very good as a warm up. As you continue to up the time you spend meditating, you will soon be able to use this meditaion as a lead up into another technique. The technique above is good for quieting the mind and becoming one with your body. Mythbuster: You don't need to meditate for hours for the practice to workAt first I couldn't even sit down quietly for 5 minutes, so I reduced my breathing time down to 3 minutes. Once I became comfortable with 3 minutes, I upped my time to 4 minutes.
At one point I could meditate for 30 minutes, but then I stopped practicing and struggled to finish 5 minutes. This is ok, just start back at 3 minutes and build yourself up again until you are more comfortable. You can't expect to get anywhere far without a full tank of fuel What is Self-Care and why is it important? Self-care is the regular practice of activities that reduce stress and maintain and enhance health overall wellbeing. The importance of self-care is all in the benefits:
Working yourself to Exhaustion is just not sustainableDon't get me wrong, hard work is essential if you want to get anything done and do it well BUT, you can't go on forever. You need sleep, you need good food, you need joy and fun, you need friends and family and you need time to rest and relax. If you never give yourself a break, then burning out is inevitable and you can trust me on this one. By learning to say YES and NO when it is true to you, you will empower yourself as an individual and you will invite happiness into your life. I am a classic burnout-aholicDare to Ignite is my life. I have such a brilliant vision for the future, I know what I want to achieve and I can clearly see the life that I want to live in, but I do tend to get over involved in trying to make this happen. I have worked for months on end, with barely a drink out with friends or a quiet evening without my laptop and my notepad and pen, writing down my ideas, dreaming, contacting people in business, blogging, researching, all for my vision. This is great and I love my own determination but I forget too easily how important play and fun is, I forget how important and nice a quiet evening just vegging out is for your spirit. Ultimately I burn out, everytime! After I am burnt to a crisp these are the symptoms that follow:
What you can do to avoid burnoutIf you experience any of these symptoms or if you feel you regularily burnout to extremes then SELF-CARE is a great way to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get back into living a life that you absolutley love! Self-care is very unique and individual according your personal needs but here are a few ideas to get you started:
Your self-care plan is all yoursYour self-care plan is completely up to you. You choose what you do and when and where. It is recommended that you try to practice looking after yourself daily. Mix it up and try something different everyday. Also, try to remember that it is all about what is best for you, if you make plans to hang out with friends but on the day you are not feeling 100%, it is ok for you to say no. By learning to say YES and NO when it is true to you, you will empower yourself as an individual and you will invite happiness into your life. Uncertainty, self-doubt, blocking your intuition or whatever you want to call it, we have all been there and I am here today to tell you that I, like many others, experience self-doubt on a daily basis. Self-doubt is one of the major obstacles to living the life you truly deserve. This unhealthy food for the soul drags down your spirit, crushes your ambitions, and prevents you from achieving what you desire It is a difficult place to live in, modern society, with so many opinions and marketing advertisiments being presented to us hourly, it is hard sometimes to discern what voice in our head is actually ours. Not only is there a lot of information bombarding us, but there is also a lot of fear based content that we are confronted with daily. Fear is very distracting from the truth. Fear is a mechanism that distorts your reality, by means of highly charging your emotions; fear can create cruel, demeaning and/or delusional content that you replay in your mind endlessly; fear can create a need in your mind to focus on the future or the past, you may always be reflecting on past traumas and reliving and repressing them daily; fear feels restrictive or like a shrinking sensation throughout your being. I am here to tell you that I, like many others, experience this on a daily basis I am a very fearful person at this time in my life. I am afraid of confrontation, I am afraid of not being good enough and I am afraid of failing. I have so many triggers around these foundational fears that I am constantly looking to hide myself and I retreat into my shell often. Shape shifting Safety ShellEveryone has a saftey shell; a safety shell is a place - that doesn't necessarily have to be a room with solid walls - where when feeling threatened or not safe, that one can retreat into, where one does feel safe. For example my shell can be crossing my arms and legs, putting on a hat or sunglasses or lifting my hoodie over my head. I frequently put my headphones in to block out the world and to retreat into my own world. I also hold back my tears frequently, often crying quietly or just repressing my emotions as much as possible; this is also a form of a safety shell. It's a scary thing for me to think of how many repressed tears I have and how much I need to let out emotionally. Oh, I just thought of another fear, I am afraid of being a burden on others and that I can't do this on my own. Whenever I am feeling sad or unstable I will become very unsocial so I can retreat to a place where no one will be burdened by my problems and emotions. Punch line 1: Never think that you have to do this aloneYou don't have to do this alone. It has taken me way too long to even become aware of this and I am still learning how to incorporate a practice into my life, where I actively acknowledge that I can ask people for help or support or a shoulder to cry on. Not only do I have to recognise that I am afraid of burdening someone, but I become very anxious when confronted with the idea of being rejected. You don't have to do this alone, but it is o.k. if someone doesn't want to help you. Do not be discouraged by someone else exercising their free will. Punch Line 2: You have everything you need, just look withinMay I repeat, I am no guru as you can see from all of the fears I have admitted to you, so who am I to preach any of this to you? If I sound like I am preaching I apolagize, I only mean to share my experiences and lessons. However, many masters, sensei's, guru's and enlightened beings all say 'just look within and you will find your answer'. From my very basic understanding, I have learnt that I can alleviate my fears if I do just this. Meditating or practicing deep breathing is very helpful for me to clear my mind and find stillness. Sometimes, depending on my level of anxiety, this may take a long time, other times I might only need to breath deeply for a minute or so. The goal of deep breathing in this case, is to focus completely on the sensations of your breath, moving in and out of your body. If any thoughts come up, negative or positive, I focus on watching them pass by like clouds above my head and then I return my attention back to my breath and the sensations my breathing brings to my body. If you feel any emotions do not repress them or push them away. Go to the space in your body where you are feeling this emotion and simply let the emotion play out. Be curious and feel all of it, you may cry or laugh or shudder, whatever it is you need to do to feel your emotions make sure that you feel them and do not lock them away; they always come out eventually. Free your mind from fear and Self Doubt will Fade AwayWithout any fear over your head, then there is nothing there to fuel your mind in doubting your ability? Without fear, what is stopping you from living your truth? Once I have cleared my mind of all of my thoughts, my fears and my anxieties, once I have found a wide open space in my mind, that is when I feel ready to inquire into the answers that I am seeking in my life. It has been said, that if you regularly clear your mind from your fears, then you are more likely able to hear your inner intuition. You can more easily make good desicions because you can see reality clearly for what it is. That Gut Feeling: Discerning between intuition and FearSometimes it is hard to tell the difference, is it our intuition or it is our fear that is guiding us? In negative situations you will still have that gut feeling telling you that you should leave a particular space or that someone might not have the best intentions for you. But how can you tell in these not so obviously bad situations if you are doubting your ability or if it is your intuition guiding you?
Below is a diagram that you can refer to if you are ever unsure in these cases. If you have been following my previous "A Golden Morning" blog's we left off at tongue scraping. Sounds interesting I know, but if you'd like to find out more click this link. The next practice that I brought into my morning routine is drinking some warm lemon tea. If Tongue scraping is in your routine, then I would always scrape my tongue first, before ingesting anything because we are trying to spit out the toxins not swallow them. Plus, to get the most out of your lemon tea, you want as little toxins in your mouth as possible, so you can detox other parts of your body too. Benefits of drinking Warm Lemon water1. Warm Water Aids Digestion Not even getting to the lemon yet, warm water first thing in the morning helps get the digestive system moving by giving it a helpful flush and hydrates your body after your 6-8 hour sleep. Do you drink water while your sleeping? I thought not. You can even try to have 2-3 glasses of water first thing in the morning to start your day. You might notice increased energy levels and clarity. 2. Immune System Boost! Lemon's contain Vitamin C which is a great immune system strengthener and also good for the adrenals which can help with reducing stress. Have some lemon water in the morning to absorb these nutrients first to kick start your day, without fear of cold's or stress at work. 3. Lemon Water Increases Your Metabolism By starting your digestive system with some warm water with lemon juice, you are giving your metabolism a great start, this is a great small change you can add to your weight loss or weight management lifestyle. 4. Healthier Looking Skin If you regularly start you day off by drinking wamr water with lemon juice, your digestive system will start to run smoother your body will naturally support healthier and clearer skin. Plus you're getting healthy dosage of Vitamin C every morning which is needed for collagen production. How to startLike I said , I always have a glass of water and some warm lemon tea first thing after I have scraped my tongue of the previous nights toxins. If you're not used to drinking water first thing in the morning, then a lot of water too quickly can give you some nausea, so I would recommend starting slow with maybe just one glass of water and increase your water intake during the day.
Life is really, just one big journey. The journey can be broken down into 1. the small pieces of day-to-day life, or 2. you can zoom-out and look down at the whole picture. When one learns the ability look at life from different points of view, in moments of happiness and suffering, one will see that life is not a big end-all exam, life is a practice. Dust you Shoulders offLife can definately be overwhelming at times and when all hope for the future fades from your mind-set - be that your final test results, a prospected promotion at work or a relationship - when it all becomes too much, it is so easy to give yourself over to self-doubt and give up entirely on life ever working out; as if the end of the world is right around the corner, because you weren't good enough. But the end of the world never comes. Your life will definitely change according to what you do, good or bad - that's up to how you see it - but your life will continue, new people will come and go and different opportunities will continue to keep popping up, inviting you to choose where you want your life to go. You pick yourself up, dust yourself off and continue learning how to walk. Steps to masteryLife is an art with so many skills to understand, learn, practice and master. The foundational basics of learning anything are:
Practice, practice, practice to masteryIf mastery is what you want, then this step is the most important of all of these steps. The only way to mastery is practice. Not only do you refine your skill with each repetitive movement or thought-pattern, but each practice session usually has a new problem you have to overcome mentally or physically. For example let's say I am trying to master a particular yoga pose. Fundamentally it is the same pose or formula, you position yourself in the same way at each practice, but oneday your body might be tired from a party the night before so it is harder for your mind to focus less on the 'difficulties' and more on acquiring 'stillness' in the posture. Another practice session might involve the environment to be less than perfect. You decide to practice this posture out in nature, you hike for an hour to a place where the scenery is beautiful but when you arrive, it starts to rain unexpectedly. Suddenly you are struggling mentally with getting angry or frustrated at the weather and giving up and walking home feeling negative. If you do decide to stay becuase you have decided that you like the rain, a physical test comes up to challenge you, suddenly you are very slippery and it is very hard to balance and you require a lot more physical strenght and mental focus to find stillness inside and outside of yourself. Mastery requires knowing the skill inside and out. Mastery requires that you are able to remain, calm, collected, curious and confident in navigating your way through the situation. Be patient and stand back upLife is a practice, we are constantly being presented with new things to learn so that we can grow. But with learning any new skill, you can't expect not to make a mistake or fall down at least once or many times! I know I fall over a lot.
Falling over or making mistakes can be very frustrating and disheartening, especially if you let you mind wander into negativity. Practice takes a lot of patience and sometimes it requires that you slow down so you can figure out where you are going wrong and also so you can more easily have good technique and form. Don't give up on yourself when you fall down, take a deep breath and stand back up and try again. Life is one massive journey that can be seen as smaller day-to-day pieces that you can easily become lost in; you get caught up in the emotions and the drama of it all. If you do fall down and feel as if you want to give-up might I suggest you zoom-out from your life and look at the bigger picture. Recall your life in its entirety, what happened and what have you learned from all of these experiences. Falling down is one of the greatest opportunites for growth. Remember that. Life is a practice, so be ready to fall down a lot. Don't worry, you are stronger than you know, you got this. |
AuthorMy name is Brittney and my life pursuit has been that of self-improvement and growth. It took me a long time to realize that I don't really fit into societies model that you need to go to school, find a career, strive to be extremely succesful to then get married and have kids, ever acquiring material objects. There is nothing wrong with this model at all and for those who can embrace this with whole-hearted happiness, keep going with it. Archives
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